If you can't remove the stress, remove yourself. Slip away once in a while for some private time. These quiet moments may give you a fresh perspective on your problems. Avoid stressful people. For example, if you don't get along with your father-in-law but you don't want to make an issue of it, invite other in-laws at the same time you invite him. Having other people around will absorb some of the pressure you would normally feel.

如果你们不能转移压力，那就让自己远离压力。适当离开一段时间，为自己找个私人空间。这些安静的时刻也许能够使你对问题产生新的看法，避开给你产生压力的人。例如，如果你和你岳父相处不融洽，但你又不想让这成为大问题，那么在邀请他时也邀请其他的姻亲，有其他的人在身边会消减一些你平常所感觉到的压力。